The thing is: Sometimes we lure ourselves into the idea, all of our old “schooled” ideas are WRONG and need to go away. We tend to become afraid of our own thoughts, we do not want to disturb the children, we do not want to ruin the unschooling. So, we become silent. We tend to not say it out loud if we think it is a good idea to read a certain book or to learn a certain skill. Because this is WRONG, we think.
But is it?
In our journey, we learned long before the unschooling, authenticity, and honesty are the most important focus points in parenting. When my first child was only a few days old twenty years ago, a mentor of mine, told me: “It is time, she gets to know you now”. I gave this a lot of thought.
“Unschooling is first and foremost about the relationship”, another mentor of mine told me many years later, and this is so interesting. It is not about the education of the child as such. The system works the other way around: The parent-child relationship build on mutual respect, honesty, personal freedom and unconditional love, makes the education of both the child and the parent possible. This is the point.