It is not enough to state: My family is one of my core values. We need to define: What family? What about it? How is your family life, when it is perfect? How does it look, feel, unfold? How do you know it when it is rihgt? How do you know it, when you are moving in the right direction? What can you do to day and in the long run to honour this value, and how do you know this is the right thing to do? All of this reflection has to be done, no matter the valuesystem. If you are not clear and have nor clear markers and no clear plan, it is all a blur. Everyone knows their loved ones are of importance to them, and that healthy body, economy, career, lovelife is what theiy want. But how does it look? What does it mean to you personally? In your specific case, what can you do, and what elements of it truly makes you happy?
As an example:
I know beauty is of great importance to me. Especially the beauty I find in nature, in my traveling experiences, in my everyday life. To stop and enjoy the beauty of a sleeping child or a sunrise or an orange or an almond tree or a piece of art or some architecture, to breathe deep and truly enjoy this is one of the treasures of my life. I hold this in my heart, and I pay attention to these experiences, being grateful when they unfold, and after, when I move on, carrying this beauty in my vibration. If I carry a camera, I often double the experience by working with my photography to not capture beauty nor the moment, but to creating more beauty by making wonderful pictures and having another moment of happiness, as I truly enjoy taking pictures.
This is just one example. I have others, more important core values, and I am constantly paying attention to my inner world to make sure, my value system is up to date, and that I am ready to go for it, when stuff that is important to me, presents itself in my surroundings/options.
In the years i am living now, one is this adventure of traveling and letting in so many cultures, experiences, landscapes and especially people to my family life is one of the great values I hold. To go live our life to the fullest, to do it every day, to stay alert and present and grateful for the amazing lifestyle of the nomadic family.
Another true value for me is health, which means I love to do my yoga, I am grateful for clean water, and I enjoy cooking healthy food for my family. All-day long if needed.
This is not about me. It is about a more general reflection on what happiness is. So, lets move on from my examples.
Another important element of happiness is paying attention to it. The more attention we give to the life elements that make us happy, the more they get to fill us up. There are only so many hours in the day, and if we fill our minds with the grateful, happy, smiling joy of recognizing our own happiness when it is in the present moment, and enjoying the memory of it when we are doing something more trivial. Another good reason, by the way, I took up the habit of taking pictures. I have an amazing Memory Lane to go to on a rainy day.
So, did I explain what happiness is? Probably not? But I did point in the direction, where you can find it. And that is important. Because happiness will always be subjective. You have to go look for your own. Basically, you have to go create your own.