This sound so very easy, and it is not. Rather it is simple to explain and a challenge to master.
It is a real challenge, as we humans communicate by words, and often explain each other things. Doing so makes things very complicated to me. Often I just know. I just know what to do, where to go. Very often, I don’t know why.
The tricky part, like in all aspects of life, is to find the balance. Can I explain it? Do we all agree? Did I stop long enough to wait for that deep knowledge or were I too busy? Do my inner critic or doubt get in the way, so I can not really feel my heart?
So here we are, I am trying to write a blogpost about moving in with strangers, caught in the trap of trying to explain why.
The real answer to why we do it is: Because I just knew it was the right thing to do. Finito.
And in deed it was. We moved in, all awkward, yet natural, very tired, in need for showers and food and sleep – and Keith and Magalie were warm and welcoming, tuned perfectly for the situation, even though they had never done this before. We had no trouble at all feeling at home. Within 24 hours the two large families had found a rhythm, and we started to share life.
To share life
This is exactly what it is all about. Living with strangers, or friends or extended family provides exactly this intimacy and deep meaningfulness. Visits are so short and like a kind of pause from daily life. It can be so wonderful to have lunch with someone or co-visit a museum, but it is not the full picture. When you live with people and go through the full cycle from the toothbrush to supermarket, from showers to stargazing at, from cooking to bedtime stories – things change.
There is a different peace in the relations. We can play and talk and help each other out, but there is never any stress. You can ask a question one day, and get the answer the next day. Everyone has enough time and peace.
After deciding to move in with strangers, after listening to our hearts, and deciding to do something kind of crazy, the everyday life sets in, the co-living.